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Cheating - forgiving or ending the relationship?

A very sensitive situation arises when your partner cheated on you and you found out about it. The question always arises of whether to continue such a relationship or diverge to the sides.

Any news of cheating is stressful, and in a state of stress, it is unlikely that you will be able to find the right solution. For this reason, you need to start not with clarifying the relationship, but with establishing your own mental balance. Hot on the trail, you should not start a conversation, as it may turn into not negotiations, but a scandal.

In the meantime, you will balance the nervous system, there are two options to consider: maintain the relationship or destroy it.

Very often partners can be materially dependent on each other, and it is this fact that is taken into account in favor of maintaining the relationship in case of betrayal. But it may happen that the material side of the issue will not become an obstacle to a break. It's all about the reasons for the betrayal. If a person deliberately goes to treason, then he is definitely not satisfied with the relationship with his partners. In this case, maintaining the relationship is simply to postpone the breakup.

If cheating is just an accident or has the effect of side entertainment, it is possible not to end the relationship. But in this case, everything will depend on how sensitive the victim of treason is to such things. Will a person be able to forgive and not remember the case of betrayal, will he be able to put up with future betrayals.

You can test yourself by answering questions:

Can you, as before, treat your partner tenderly,
Will you be able to provide him with attention and support, without remembering his betrayal,
Will you be able to trust and not show suspicion to your partner in the future,
Can you once again forgive a person for treason.

If you answered “Yes” to at least one of the questions, it makes sense to maintain the relationship. But if any of the questions are not acceptable to you, do not try to maintain a relationship, as you will not be able to maintain such a relationship in the same form.

Maintaining or ending a relationship when cheating is a matter of inner comfort and peace of mind. And each person decides such a question for himself.