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Interpersonal manipulation.

No one offends us as often as the people around us. And although we are free to choose our friends, loved ones, and we are able to ignore unloved relatives, colleagues and people living near us, if the situation requires it, nevertheless we are within their reach. And if in such an environment people with personality deformations (psychopaths) come across, then we can involuntarily find ourselves in the area of their destructive actions.

There are several destructive methods of manipulation (destructive), in front of which we find ourselves unarmed and involved in games that psychologically destroy our personality:

Gaslighting - portrays you as an inadequate person who begins to doubt the authenticity of the events taking place around him. Gaslighting signs: you are convinced that what you are talking about did not exist, that everything that you noticed seemed to you. You begin to analyze the situation, already putting yourself in a vulnerable position by agreeing tacitly with the person manipulating your mind, and subjecting your perception of the world to criticism.
Projection - they are trying to evoke a feeling of guilt for the shortcomings and vices of another person. To throw off responsibility for not perfect or not done well enough deeds (actions). The manipulator begins to accuse you, pointing out that it is you who are the prerequisite for his failures in business or in life in general.
Demagogy, talking about nothing - allow the manipulator to involve you in this kind of meaningless polemics, the result of which will be a departure from the topic or problem that interests you. And such a conversation will end not in your favor, since you may remember all your mistakes and mistakes, and you will be presented in a negative light. They will involve you in such a conversation with an unfounded statement, and while you, realizing the absurdity of the information coming from the manipulator, will look for counterarguments, he will "fill up" you with your own, but already distorted arguments.
Undermining authority - will allow a manipulator, who is well acquainted with your principles of life, norms of behavior and level of education, to “argue” your point of view in such a way that you will find yourself in a state of an offended and humiliated person.
Training - by insults, disrespect, tough methods of treatment, they are trying to make you upset, spoil your mood - in general, they poison your life.

How to resist destructive manipulation techniques? There is only one way out! In order not to undermine your own authority, not to destroy your inner world, your life attitudes, not to doubt yourself, not to criticize yourself, not to look for flaws in yourself and not to lower your self-esteem, it is necessary to abruptly stop all communication, any form of contact with this deformed personality (human - manipulator).