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Order in the head.

Many psychological trainings teach to put things in order in their lives, and this is against the background of the fact that life itself is chaotic, unpredictable, and a person is not such a perspicacious being to predict all the sharp turns of life "in the wrong place."

An orderly life can be just as boring as the disorder in life can be boring one day. How can one get out of such a vicious circle without fundamentally harming either one's life or oneself.

There are several points in approaches to changing life, which boil down to one simple solution - to put things in order in your head. For this maneuver, there is no need to contact a psychologist, a psychotherapist or a coach (the one who teaches life in trainings – coaching). You are the person who is able to put your head in order on your own. Tidying up your head is not about washing your hair, cutting a haircut or doing an ultra-fashionable hairstyle, it means reconsidering your attitude to the life around you and learning how to extract useful moments from it for yourself, even if life is depressingly sad and, at first glance, monotonously useless.

How to put things in order in your head?

Behind the mountain of necessary deeds, from which there is no way to "get rid of", because there are such words as "must" and "must", are hidden the treasures of life - rest, entertainment and pleasant creation.

Rest is not the state when, when you come home from work tired, you dream of falling into the pillow on your face and forgetting to sleep until the next work jerk. Rest is when you have time to notice the life around you - nature, beautiful things, your children, your loved ones.

Entertainment is a state of inner relaxation and a good mood from contemplating the surrounding reality and from interacting with it - to eat deliciously, watch a pleasant film or program, read a pleasant text of a book or a message from friends, take a walk in nature, communicate with pleasant people, and even just listen street noise with closed eyes.

Pleasant creation is a feeling of satisfaction from something created with your own hands or invented by yourself. Any person, even one who does not realize what abilities he can count on, since he has never developed them, is capable of “creating”. And this creativity should bring a sense of the usefulness of the day lived into your own life. It doesn't matter if you are a professional or self-taught in the business chosen for creativity. Your creation is your personal achievement in life, and it deserves to be proud of yourself and consider any day spent on creativity as well spent.

For all three treasures of life, you need to find time, and this is what order in your head is needed : to separate the time spent on useless routine tasks from those hours that will be spent on yourself - after all, life is your "property", which you need to manage rationally for myself.

To make time for your life, you must:

cut down on communication with useless or unpleasant people - they take away your minutes of happiness;
do not waste time every day on the same household chores - do a certain urgently needed amount of work and postpone the rest for the next week;
morning is more productive than evening - therefore, it is better to do some types of necessary work in the morning (get up an hour and a half earlier), and leave the evening for contemplation and early bedtime;
do not waste time at home studying the news - this information can be obtained from a mobile device when moving "to work - from work" or unaccounted for temporary losses in traffic jams;
if shopping on business takes a long time, plan such trips on your way home or choose the closest shopping establishments. And on clothing shopping, unless of course it is part of the entertainment program, do not stare at unnecessary things.

Finding extra time for life is akin to the process of transport logistics, when a specialist calculates and builds the shortest and least costly path to the final goal in advance. So in ordinary life, you can calculate in advance the time spent on the necessary household chores, then shorten the ways to achieve them and thereby get excess time.