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Self-talk - when to sound the alarm?

You have a problem and there is no one to discuss it with: the therapist is not available, you are embarrassed to tell the psychologist, your friends are not up to your problems - they have their own, relatives simply will not understand you. How to be? Try to talk to yourself !

The advantage of such conversations is that:

You are always at hand - you can discuss everything at any time;
The problem and the circumstances associated with it are familiar to you yourself - there is no need to waste time on retelling;
You understand yourself better and give yourself the best advice on how to resolve your issue.

So what's the problem? Afraid that others will notice your conversations and find you slightly (or completely) out of your mind? In conversations with yourself, there is nothing from the disease, if only you are talking to yourself, and not with an outside voice you hear - this is already a problem!

Why do people tend to discuss painful issues with themselves? The human brain is so arranged that, explicitly or at the subconscious level, it processes the information received and transforms it into thoughts, which you find yourself busy with. You can think in silence, or you can think out loud - this is a conversation with yourself, when you unconsciously turn on the vocal apparatus and begin a discussion of a painful issue for you, speaking it out loud.

Scientists believe that self-talk is helpful in some way. They help to better understand the situation when speaking it, develop intellectual abilities, because you must simultaneously hold the thread of the conversation and think about possible solutions to the problem you are discussing, relieve nervous tension and anxiety, and allow you to relax internally.

Talking out loud to yourself should only raise concerns in a few cases:

when it seems to you that you are talking to someone else (invisible),
when you hear voices and answer them,
when you are not discussing a problem, but arguing with yourself, argue, being responsible for both sides.

In all other cases, you can talk to yourself as much as you like - this will help to more accurately determine the essence of the problem and find an adequate solution to it, without resorting to the help of outsiders.