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Initiative in relationships - when and how much to take on?
Although the word partners are used in relationships, often one of the halves is inclined to take on most of the organization of the relationship (leisure, home improvement, food priorities, initiative in sex life, etc.).
It is good to be an activist, but it is not always appropriate, because if you are carried away by your own activity, you can simply not hear your partner's initiative and nullify all his attempts to take part in your relationship. And who needs such a relationship if one partner builds them, and the other uses what is offered, without a single chance to change anything in accordance with their desires? Love in such a relationship is not distributed equally, but begins to belong only to one of the partners, and this can eventually get boring, desalinate feelings and lead to a break in relations. Not all people like to live according to someone else's scenario.
There is a danger in this one-sided initiative. When one of the partners works for the good of the union, and the other only contemplates and uses these benefits, both sides can suffer: one half will soon get tired of taking on everything, and the other half will get bored of always being led in all manifestations of the relationship.
Relationships are not about rivalry in business (who contributed more, received more). The initiative in a relationship must be shared by both. Everyone brings their share of feelings, love, warmth, care into the relationship, and then these relationships will be partnerships.
Give each other a chance to prove themselves, alternate the organization of leisure time, give your companion the opportunity to dream up in their own way. This will bring novelty to the relationship, will give the other half-initiative half also feel like the master of the situation.
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