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Relationships on the verge of rupture - what to do?

Rupture in relationships for both women and men is a painful topic. It is especially difficult and traumatic to break off relationships that have been developing for more than one day, when partners forgave each other a lot. But then there comes a moment when one of the partners thinks about: "Isn't this the case when it is appropriate to make adjustments to the relationship up to their complete cessation?" How to understand whether a "point of no return" has come, when there is no point in continuing to keep yourself close to another person, or there is still a chance to establish an unsuccessfully developing relationship?

The issue of breaking up a relationship always comes down to the moment of forgiveness. A person decides for himself that he can forgive another, and what he will never be able to forget, which means that the whole subsequent life will be poisoned by these negative memories.

Most psychologists who study interpersonal relationships, and in particular gender relations, agree that there are some general situations when forgiveness is inappropriate, because it will never return the relationship to its former course, memories will corrode the soul like rust, and when - someday a turning point will come, and it will be necessary to put an end to the relationship.

Actions that kill love and lead to the collapse of relationships:

Treason (even one single one);
Contempt and disgust;
Violence (physical and moral);
Cheating;
Selfishness;
Greed;
Pathological addictions.

To get rid of hesitation in the soul and doubts about whether it is right to break off relations in this particular case , it is worth conducting an experiment: to part for a while without quarreling (go on a business trip, on vacation, etc.) and see how the state will change souls. If a long separation causes an overwhelming feeling of attraction to a partner who has remained far away, then all is not lost. But if you feel a sense of relief, organize your inner experiences, calm down and feel mentally healthier, then it's time to say goodbye to each other.