My own psychologist >>>> What is bad luck and how to live with it?

What is bad luck and how to live with it?

Looking at successful people, many people sometimes think: "Why are they lucky, but I am not?" A person always notices the successes of other people and evaluates them more than his own luck. But after all, the failures and bad luck of successful people are hidden, and success and luck are on the surface, so they are easy to notice.

Luck or bad luck is not a property of a person's life, but a combination of circumstances uncontrollable by him, which at certain moments can be favorable for one person and unfavorable for another. But a person is so arranged that he takes the good moments of his life for granted, and failures as something unnatural.

When we are “unlucky” in small portions, we do not pay attention to it, but when we start to “unlucky” on a large scale, the question arises: “What if something is wrong with me, because others in the same situations are doing well!".

Failure always attracts more attention because it makes you nervous. If you start counting all the good luck and bad luck that happened during your life, then it may turn out that there were more than enough good luck to continue to live in peace, and after all, at these moments someone may have had no luck.

To some outsider, an unlucky person (in his own opinion) looks lucky. Therefore, the assessment of the degree of bad luck is a subjective (own) opinion of a person about himself, and it may not reflect the true state of affairs. Remember that you are the one counting your failures, and the outsiders are counting your luck.

There are people - pessimists and people - optimists, and they evaluate the same circumstance in life differently. Pessimists may look at failure as the collapse of life, while optimists see it as a stage in life that will soon be replaced by more favorable events.

Therefore, in order not to get hung up on your own failures, not to quantify your bad luck, you need to learn to distance yourself from them, not to analyze yourself, not to look for the reasons for failures in yourself, but to turn your attention to these circumstances that are not too comfortable in this period of life, as temporary. inconvenience. After all, you will not spend a lot of time analyzing a knee broken during a fall, but shake yourself off, heal your knee and move on. So it is necessary to act with bad luck of any degree of frequency - as with a temporary, painful event for the nervous system and your own pride, which will be replaced by a successful combination of circumstances, where exactly you will be at your best.