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To cry or not to cry?

We are accustomed to the fact that crying is a child's "entertainment", and in adulthood it is not appropriate. But this is a wrong view of crying. Crying is an emotion from the field of human psychophysiology (animals cannot cry). Crying provokes nervous strain, tragedy, psychological trauma.

As a child, crying was a reaction to pain, or an expression of dissatisfaction that the child could not yet articulate. But with age, a person learns to endure painful sensations, and expresses dissatisfaction with varying degrees of indignation. Therefore, in order to cry, you need a special state of mind and nervous system.

To cry or not to cry? Asking ourselves this question, each of us decides how to express his emotional overstrain: to publicly demonstrate or hide within himself.

Social norms involve a limited display of their emotional experiences in the open. As a result, people try to extinguish the desire to cry by an effort of will. For what? For example, in order not to demonstrate to others their weaknesses, to always look like a strong, emotionally balanced person.

But when a person restrains his emotions for a long time, this is reflected in his state of health. After all, crying is an emotional release, which "releases" the tension of the nervous system, allows you to survive difficult moments of emotional shock, helps to stabilize the psyche.

Without relieving stress, the nervous system goes into a self-destructive mode and begins to hit the weak points in the body (chronically unstable diseases), creates an internal tension of smooth muscles, which forms the walls of many internal organs, which disrupts their physiology.

A normal, mentally healthy person has several ways to relieve internal emotional stress, feeling disorders:

tell another person about your experiences (for example, a friend, relative, or therapist (psychologist));
cry and experience your own problems and tragedies yourself;
switch from the emotional sphere to physical activity, relieving the internal tension of the nervous system by tensioning the muscles (forcibly switching the work of some muscle groups to others);
distracting yourself from painful reflections with an exciting activity that plays the role of an emotional unloader and allows you to postpone and gradually forget experiences.

So crying is rightfully one of the ways to unload and maintain the further health of the whole organism. And crying, as a tool for treating the nervous system, should not be neglected in the name of your own health.