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Rivalry between partners - is it necessary?
A close relationship between two people is not only a love relationship, but also a competition for the right to be the best in a couple. This kind of competition is born in a natural way, because each of the partners wants to please the other without restrictions. And this means that he must be beautiful, smart, successful, the best among all the other applicants for each of the parties.
Competing in this way for ideality, partners often cross the border, beyond which the competition turns into confrontation, and sometimes quite aggressive. The one of the partners who begins to feel defective against the background of the achievements of the second half, first feels envy, then anger, and then indifference, which helps him to experience his own (in his opinion) insufficiency. Instead of admiring, looking at the object of their love, complementing each other with their abilities, partners begin to view each other as potential rivals competing for their superiority.
Is competition between partners really necessary?
In such a confrontation, no feeling, no matter how sincere it may be, will not stand the test. This is how the process of cooling towards each other begins. Warm relationships are transformed into mutual claims. A love relationship collapses very quickly.
What should rival partners do? Someone must be the first to get out of this confrontation, to give up the primacy, from the position of the best, most capable. It must be remembered that modesty always decorates more than an outright protrusion of one's merits, especially in front of a person who may feel awkward and humiliated because he cannot reach the level of his partner. One must be able to sincerely admire each other's achievements, and not be annoyed about this. Then mutual feelings will warm the union of two people for a long time.
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