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Criticism from the outside - how to react?

There are no ideal people, although at heart each person is sure that he is different from others for the better and listens with pleasure to praise, but having heard a critical attack in his address, sometimes he does not understand its reasons and is annoyed with others. A violent reaction to criticism is just a sign of wounded pride of a person who would like others to have a high opinion of him. How to learn to restrain yourself from emotional outbursts in moments of criticism, which can cause not only temporary irritation, but also psychological trauma?

It is one thing to hear criticism from loved ones, whose opinion you trust, and quite another thing is criticism from others, which not every person is stoically capable of enduring.

To choose the right response to criticism, you need to understand why you are criticized.

If criticism is carried out for educational purposes, then the reaction to it should be appropriate: listen silently, take note, react constructively (by changing something in work or in yourself).

When they criticize in order to humiliate, offend, the best way out is to silently smile, a smile always disarms the enemy, because it does not give an opportunity to find your weaknesses.

If the person criticizing you does not have the goal of offending you, but wants to draw your attention in this way to what he does not like about you, you should enter into a dialogue with him (not aggressive) and in the process of further calm conversation find out what prompted the criticizing you person to take such a step. Thus, you can avoid conflict, find out the opinion of others about yourself (which is always useful to know for your own self-development) and for the future make it clear to the critic that you are not as vulnerable as he may see it.

External criticism is also an experience. It allows a person to pay attention to such aspects of his life that he may not have taken into account when he built his relationships with people around him.