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Marriage is not popular - why?

In modern life, marriage is increasingly becoming an unpopular event. More and more couples in love prefer not to complicate their relationship with documents. The birth of children also does not become the reason for the marriage. Why is marriage not popular?

No matter how people are mentally attached to each other, but the issue of marriage is, first of all, an economic issue. You can be together for a long time, not imagine life without each other, but when the question of marriage is brewing, it is economic questions that first of all begin to emerge: where to live and manage the household together, how to spend money - jointly or separately, whether there will be enough funds to support child.

Of course, not all people think about such intricacies of coexistence and sometimes have children spontaneously, but ill-considered. And, nevertheless, those who do not seek to marry, quite deliberately do it.

What are the "horrors of family life" implies the conclusion of an official marriage? First and foremost, these are obligations to each other. It is to the upcoming obligations that fantasy draws that most lovers give in. The official union implies that you already owe something to each other:

Should pay attention, not as in an open relationship - to do it in a natural way (at ease!).
We must take care of each other, while "in free flight" you can at times ignore each other.
They must financially support the family, and not as before - from time to time to give something.
They should spend money on arranging a joint life, but before they could not bother with this.
And they owe a lot when a child is born who, so to speak, turns out to be "assigned to you for allowance."

It is this unpleasant word "commitment" that repels most people from legalization of relationships.

But if you decide to start a family without getting married, nothing terrible will happen, except that you will still comply with obligations to each other, but no longer by compulsion, but by mutual consent - voluntarily! The only difficulty of such a joint relationship will be the issue of the acquisition of joint property and the inheritance of this property by your future children. It is for this purpose that they conclude a marriage, so that the rights of each member of the future family are legally defined.