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How to restore a shattered life (8 levels).

Like any living being, whose life is regulated by higher nervous activity, a person lives by emotions, and it is they that become both a creative and destructive force, leading his life into disorder. It doesn't matter who caused the ruined life - yourself or those events that swept through your life like a hurricane, leaving a pile of rubble - ruined life.

The result is the same - a carefully built castle of joys, interests and illusions was in ruins. It makes no sense to continue living on the ruins - you need to start building anew - to “create” your life. But, as a rule, many people do not find the strength for new construction and begin to slide into the abyss of depression, alcohol and drugs, which in no way restores the destruction, but on the contrary only completely breaks the foundation of life - the foundation on which a person rests in life : health, profession, close people, family members, hobbies.

To rebuild a shattered life, as in any construction business, you need skills and a plan for that very future structure, which has the name "human life". Oddly enough, but from the wreckage, you can also build a very significant structure, if you place them correctly. Choose only "strong" fragments, because they will form the frame of your new "building" of life. And remember that if these fragments of life have survived, then they are practically eternal building materials, they are the basis. The most solid and strong "building materials" in life include health, physical activity, professional skills and hobbies, that is, those components of life that are "supporting structures" in everyday life. The family may turn out to be of secondary importance, because family or personal relationships can be destroyed.

The first level of the construction of life is health, and in everyday language - food. Remember what you have eaten recently, and you will understand that during this period you have denied your body its primary need - quality food. Take up the study of recipes for a cuisine that you are not familiar with - this will start an interest in food, because curiosity is the driving force, and curiosity about food is already a new round of life. When the problems with nutrition are restored, and it becomes conscious and attractive, you can move on to the next level.

The second level is the prevention and treatment of diseases that overwhelmed you while you were sitting on the wreckage of life. No one has yet emerged from the rubble in full health, and you are no exception. Therefore, take up the rehabilitation of your health, conduct a preventive round of the main doctors, find out what your body lacks for a complete recovery and proceed to wellness procedures. For those who are too lazy to go for a preventive examination and feel physically healthy, such procedures as swimming, spa treatments, morning or evening jogging in the fresh air (or just walking high-speed walking), massage, aromatic and oxygen inhalations are suitable. If you feel a lack of energy, carry out vitamin therapy - the immune system will be grateful to you.

The third level is a dwelling, or rather its comfortable state. Start by putting things out in places and gradually move on to the main point of building life: changing the interior and cleaning. There is no need to repeat the previous version of home improvement - its charm has already been lost. This means that you need to bring new interior details into your home: a fashionable chair, a beautiful bedspread, new curtains, decorate the walls in a new way, buy beautiful trinkets and place them in a conspicuous place for decoration. Ideally, a change in the interior can be transformed into a renovation (cosmetic or thorough).

The fourth level is your own appearance, which also needs updating. New life, and there is a new one in it - you. A beauty parlor or independent cosmetic procedures at home will improve the appearance, refresh and diversify it. Do not give up the novelties of cosmetology, try to update your appearance with the help of hardware cosmetology.

At this stage, fitness - exercises for general tone and correction of "lost" bodily forms are suitable.

The fifth level of life building is profession, restoration and improvement of professional skills. At this stage of construction, you can master a new profession and more than one. Life will be rebuilt and you will need a source of income that can also be renewed.

The sixth level of restoring life from the ruins is a hobby, that is, that hobby that will occupy your thoughts in your free time from work. A hobby can be new, because the old hobby, apparently, was no longer fascinating. You can start growing indoor, greenhouse or garden plants, start painting, get carried away with sports or intellectual games, handicrafts or collecting. Hobbies can be the most unimaginable, if only they contribute to your self-development and self-improvement, distract from life's hardships.

The seventh level of building a new life instead of a destroyed one is psychological comfort. This is a state of the nervous system in which it remains unperturbed in the whirlpools of stress. Stock up on some degree of indifference to routine troubles, distance yourself from annoying and unpleasant people.

The eighth level of restoration of a ruined life - get yourself a dream. It doesn't matter how accessible it is! This dream will become your beacon in your new life, will direct your actions in a specific direction, keep you afloat at critical moments.

After going through all the stages of building a new life, you will not notice how you will find yourself in a new quality and in new living conditions, and the walls of your new "castle" will become more stable than the previous ones, because they have already been built from building materials that have been "altered", which have proved their strength.